Avoid on premise swinger party if:
You’re jealous types. If the thought of sharing your partner makes you want to pick up a gun and shoot someone, best not go on premise swinger party. Ditto if they feel the same. You need to be able to separate sex from love and both know that having sex with others doesn’t mean you no longer love each other.
Only one of you wants to do it. It’s unfair and it’s usually a disaster. Cue nasty scenes and both of you being ejected from the club or on premise swinger party.
You’re having relationship problems. It’s also the worst idea you’ve ever had if your relationship is in crisis or you’re going through a rough patch. This will not fix it, it will snap it in two
Don’t be pushy. Once you meet someone you want to have sex with, politely ask them if they’re interested in you. If they say no, smile and move on. Don’t ask for explanations and don’t expect any.
Don’t be pressured into doing anything you don’t want to. If you don’t want to do something, say ‘No thank you. I don’t want to’. You don’t need to say why. If the person hassles you, find the host or manager of the club and tell them what’s happening. The right to say no is the fundamental etiquette in swinging.
Don’t judge. Respect other’s kinks. Look at what they’re doing’ isn’t cool. Neither is frantically nudging your partner and whispering and giggling behind your hands.
Don’t ‘take one for the team’. You both need to find the people you’re planning on sleeping with attractive. Have a code word that says ‘That person doesn’t do it for me’ that others can’t interpret. Again, play nicely.
Save the last dance for me? Some veteran swingers let their partners do whatever they want at the party but make sure the last sexual encounter is with each other.
